“The Christian life can only be explained in terms of Jesus Christ, and if your life as a Christian can still be explained in terms of you your personality, your willpower, your gift, your talent, your money, your courage, your scholarship, your dedication, your sacrifice, or your anything then although you may have the Christian life, you are not yet living it!”— - Ian Thomas
“Once upon a time, nearly every young woman was trained in the art of gracious living. She knew how to exemplify perfect etiquette in every situation. She knew how to dress and carry herself with dignity. She knew how to speak eloquently in conversation. She knew how to excel in hospitality, gift-giving, and community service. She knew how to sit up straight and listen intently when someone spoke to her. She knew how to smile and say hello to strangers. She knew how to stay focused on a task without becoming distracted by a thousand other things…..
“Today we are so far removed from gracious living that the word etiquette is basically non-existent from our vocabulary - and our lifestyles. Somewhere along the way, as the culture became more cavalier toward sin and selfishness, the idea of being dignified, refined, ladylike, gracious and socially selfless faded into the background. Now, young women seem to get far more respect if they are loud, boisterous, rebellious, obnoxious, and sexually aggressive than if they are sweet, polite, graceful, refined, modest, and thoughtful. A popular bumper sticker in the college town where we live says: ‘Well-behaved women rarely make history’. The message being propagated is that in order for a woman to really make any impact upon this world, she must shake off all those restrictive ideas about being polite or considerate, and become a pushy, in-your-face promoter of her own agenda…..
“I believe it’s time that we as young women abandon our self-focused attitudes and return to the good old days when refinement and etiquette were commonplace. Rather than climbing the popularity ladder or playing manipulative social games, let’s focus on being gracious, sensitive, and Christ-like to those around us. Let’s bring true etiquette, true gracious living, back to life.”—
“Use the hammer of diligence, and let the knee of prayer be exercised, and there is not a stony doctrine in Revelation which is useful for you to understand, which will not fly into shivers under the exercise of prayer and faith. You may force your way through anything under the leverage of prayer. Thoughts and reasoning’s are like the steel wedges which give a hold upon truth; but prayer is the lever, the price which forces open the iron chest of sacred mystery, that we may get the treasure hidden within.”— Charles Spurgeon
“Today, a gentleman raises his hat to a lady because it is the accepted way of showing respect. Originally when a king’s crown was the symbol of supreme authority and other head covering denoted the rank and power of the wearer, every man was expected to uncover his head in the presence of a higher rank and men of equal rank bared their heads in each other’s presence. During the middle ages this courtesy was extended to women. As democratic principles spread and tended to level rank and privilege, the custom became gradually confined to meetings with women…..
“Manuals of etiquette were widely circulated in America during the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries. Most came from England and were frequently adapted from Lord Chesterfield’s advice to his son….many of Cheterfield’s admonitions, along with their urbanity, contained a common-sense wisdom and made an impact on the American consciousness that is still reflected in contemporary books of etiquette….’Wear your learning like your watch, in a private pocket; and do not pull it out and strike it merely to show that you have one.’…
“Whatever the usefulness of any set of social rules, they represent, as Arthur Schlesinger says, ‘one aspect of the common man’s struggle to achieve a larger degree of dignity and self-respect.’”—
Book of Common Sense Etiquette , by Eleanor Roosevelt.
This is the first in a series of tips on Etiquette that I plan on blogging from this book by Eleanore Roosevelt, an amazing woman. After visiting with Sheila one day in the library, I found a large collection of information on old etiquette, including this book. The subject fascinates me, and has since part-way through last semester. Cecilia encouraged me to post what I learn on facebook, as she is very interested in it as well. I’ve agreed, and here you have it.
“"Even in the get-to-know you stage of a friendship, keeping Christ at the center is no less important than in a serious relationship…. For instance, many young women feel that the only way they can get to know a guy is if they initiate a friendship. "I don’t know him very well, but I"m just going to call him and invite him to coffee. How else is he ever going to know that i am interested in having a friendship with him?" It sounds like a logical line of reasoning. But taking the initiative with a guy, even in the friendship stage, can be dangerous. God designed men to be the leaders, the initiators, and the pursuers in male/female relationships….And as we discussed earlier, even though guys might at first seem to like it when girls pursue them, the reality is that when their masculine role is diminished, it hinders them from becoming the strong, confident leaders God intended them to be…When a woman takes a leadership role, even in a friendship, she subtly disregards a man’s authority and position."”—
The book: Answering the guy questions by Leslie Ludy
Cecilia, You wanted posts on etiquette, and although this is not from the book by Elenore Roosevelt, I think its completely relevant to etiquette…What are your thoughts on the matter?
“1. Our Lord and Master Jesus Christ, when He said Poenitentiam agite, willed that the whole life of believers should be repentance.
2. This word cannot be understood to mean sacramental penance, i.e., confession and sanctification, which is administered by priests.
3. Yet it means not inward repentance only; nay, there is no inward repentance which does not outwardly work divers mortifications of the flesh.
4. The penalty [of sin], therefore, continues so long as hatred of self continues; for this is the true inward repentance, and continues until our entrance into the kingdom of heaven.
5. The pope does not intend to remit, and cannot remit any penalties other than those which he has imposed either by his own authority or by that of the Canons.”—The first five…
“Dear Tammy, thanks so much for your kind words - just what and when needed! I will be leaving very shortly. Guess this will be goodbye from ND. Keep in touch if you can. Don”—(from my phone) Sometimes, things are rough. Its rough when you pray and pray, and things just seem to get worse. God cannot force our wills. I was hoping for some sort of a time-sensitive miracle. Maybe instead he’ll teach me something about time.
You know when you have a friend, and you feel like the only way to maintain that relationship is through you? You call. You write. You seek them out. They are friendly if and only if you’ve gone out of your way. I know that I’ve been guilty of being this kind of friend, and as a result I’ve deeply hurt people which I truly care about. I think that sometimes, I’m guilty of putting God into this category of friendships. That’s not where He belongs. He loves me, He wants to be with me, and He’s been seeking me out continually, long before I thought to truly search for Him.
On Wednesday, I got a phone-call from home. Its rough around there these days. So, Wednesday I started avoiding Him, not expecting that He would find me. But then, I walked into the Ad-min building on campus and out of no-where Mary, who I don’t talk to often, said “Hey Tammy!” (“Hey Mary”) “Yo man, we need to go and pray, will you?” (“yes?”). God seeks us out, because God wants to be our friend. If we’ve been hanging out with Him alot lately, and then stop, He misses us. He checks up. He knew that I needed Him, and wouldn’t have sought Him on my own. Wow.
Is my prayer life great again today, 4 days later? No. It hasn’t been. But I have talked to God about this problem. I have told Him that I feel myself pushing away, I need Him to be patient, and to help me to pray. I know He will be there for me, He hasn’t failed me yet.
2 c. all-purpose flour
2/3 c. sugar
1 T baking powder
1/2 t. salt
(I would also add 1/3 -1/2 c. ground flax seed)
3/4 c. soy milk (or almond or rice)
1/4 c. fresh lemon juice
1/2 c. canola oil
2 T lemon zest
2 t. pure vanilla extract
Preheat oven to 375 degrees F. Lightly grease a muffin tin. (I just use paper muffin liners.) In a large mixing bowl, mix together flour, sugar,baking powder, poppy seeds, and salt. Make a well in the center and add milk, lemon juice, oil, zest, and vanilla. Mix just until all wet ingredients are moistened.
Fill the muffin tins three-quarters full and bake for 23-27 min., until muffins are lightly browned on top and a toothpick or knife inserted through the center comes out clean. When cool enough to handle, trasfer to cooling racks to cool completely.”
1 1/4 unsweetened shredded coconut
1 1/4 c. almond milk (or your favorite non-dairy milk)
1 t. apple cider vinegar
1 3/4 c. white whole wheat flour OR 1 c. w.w. flour and 3/4 c. white flour
1/4 c. sugar
1/4 c. light brown sugar
1/2 t. salt
1 T baking powder
1/2 t. nutmeg
1/4 t. ground allspice
1/3 c. canola oil ( I used safflower)
1 t. pure vanilla extract
1 t. coconut extract (opt; you can also use another t. of vanilla
3/4 c. chopped dried mango (pieces should be pea-size or therabouts)
Preheat oven to 375 degrees F. Lightly grease a muffin tin. ( I use paper liners.)
First, toast the coconut. Preheat a large pan over medium-low heat. Pour in the coconut and, using a spatula, move it around slowly and consistently for about 4 minutes. The coconut should start browning almost immediately; if it doesn’t, then turn the heat up just a bit. Remove from heat when toasted (it should appear honey brown to dark chestnut in color).
Measure milk into a measuring cup and add vinegar. Set aside to curdle.
In a large bowl, mix together flour, sugar, salt, baking powder, nutmeg, and allspice. Create a well in the center, and add the milk mixture, oil, and extracts. Mix together until just combined, then fold in toasted coconut and mango. Fill the muffin tin three-quarters of the way with batter and bake for 23-27 minutes, until a knife or toothpick inserted through the center comes out clean. Let cool a bit until you can loosen the muffins and transfer them to cooling racks to cool the rest of the way.
When you get the book, you have to try the Cranberry Orange-Nut Muffins and the Cherry Sage Sausages!”
”—I stole this recipe from my cousin Nannette’s blog. It looked and sounded so good, I didn’t want to lose it deep in the depths of her page, so moving it to my page is one step in the right direction (she’s not on tumblr). Mmmmmmm I miss Montana!
“Teach us, Lord, full obedience, Holy reverence, true humility. Test our thoughts and our attitudes in the radiance of Your purity. Cause our faith to rise, cause our eyes to see Your majestic love and authority. Words of power that can never fail; Let their truth prevail over unbelief”—Speak, Oh Lord by: Getty and Townend
Interestingly, I already loved one of their hymns, In Christ alone, and also her singing on youtube. Finally I found out I know more than one of their songs - and I found out who they are - and to boot they want to bring back modern hymns. I found out it was all the same people. These people are awesome.